Alayah is really starting to get the concept of singing songs this month. She will sing the end of jingles that come on tv and she will sing the last few words of chorus lines from the radio. I love hearing her sing. She is very serious about it. Her favorite songs to sing right now are Twinkle Twinkle Little Star and Jesus Loves Me. She could sing to me all day and I would be a happy girl
Today was President's Day, so Alayah didn't have school. We decided to go see Gnomeo and Juliet again because well there wasn't much else to do today. I guess everyone else in town decided to go see it too because there were not any empty parking spots near the theater. We had to go around and park in the parking garage and walk through the casino to get to the theater.
I love going to the movies with Alayah. It's our special thing to do together. It was a great day spent together.
I bought Alayah Oliver and Company this weekend so while my parents were out of town I decided to have a movie night with my girl. We ate dinner on the couch and had popcorn and coke. She loves special times like these and I love seeing her so excited over something so simple.
Alayah's new favorite thing is to wrestle with her granpa. She stands on one end of the living room and he on the other. Then she counts 1,3,5,7,8,9,14,15,17,19,17 GO!!! and then they charge acroos the room and crash into each other and then fall to the floor. She thinks it's the greatest thing in the world. Her face just lights up and she gets so excited. Her counting changes some times she only goes to 9 but I think it is funny how she skips so many numbers lol.
For the last three years I have been asking Alayah's father for pictures of his mother who passed away in 2004. I want the pictures so that I can show them to Alayah so she knows her family members on his side. I've never received any. Alayah's uncle passed away last May and he has several children who are Alayah's cousins. I asked at that time for pictures of her uncle and for pictures of his kids...never received any. Alayah's father has an older brother who was at the funeral of the uncle who passed away and Alayah's half-sister's mom(hope I haven't lost you) talked to him and got his phone number and has been in contact with him several times since the funeral.
Alayah's father likes to stretch the truth no matter what it is, so me and Alayah's siblings' mothers have unanswered questions regarding that side of the family.
Alayah's half-sisters mom has been asking him questions and getting what I am hoping are truthful answers. It has helped close up a lot of unanswered questions like...Is Alayah's dad really Jamaican and Puerto Rican. These types of things are important to me because they are parts of Alayah's history.
Alayah's dad doesn't like me to ask anyone questions about him or his family to anyone but him. He feels all things must go through him. If they don't he has a hissy fit. Literally.
At the time of his brothers death he called me up and cussed me out because I asked a family member for pictures and information. He felt I should only ask him. I said fine and asked him for the information. It's been 9 months and nothing. I asked Alayah's half-sisters mom to ask the older uncle for his address so I could send him pictures of Alayah and to ask him about his kids and maybe see if he has any pictures of his mother he could send for her.She kept forgetting to ask him so I asked Alayah's dad to see what he would say. His comment was "What for" I told him why and he said his brother already had pictures of her. Ones he forwards to his cell phone. I knew I was getting nowhere with him so I left it alone because I knew Alayah's half-sisters mom was going to ask him. She asked him and he agreed to give me his address.
Well I get a call from Alayah's dad today cussing me out for going around him again. I told him I get tired of him never coming through. He said I want it in my time and that I should just let him handle it. I'm sorry but I don't see why I should wait years for information. He wanted to know why I'm so rushed about it. Umm...let's see. The biggest reason is we are not guaranteed tomorrow. Alayah never got to meet the uncle who passed away because her dad was a jerk and wouldn't give me his information so I could contact him when we were in his town. He died a few weeks later. Because he is selfish she misses out. His brother missed out on meeting her.
Her father didn't tell anyone in his family Alayah even existed until after she was born and I doubt it was because he wanted to. Her dad told me that he wants to keep his family information and stuff to himself and then share it with her when she is a teenager. He wants it to be something for him to share with her not me. Am I being unreasonable?
I keep coming back to the we aren't guaranteed tomorrow. If he croaks tomorrow how will she know anything about herself? or her family? I told him that I didn't have to spend my money or time to drive to New Mexico so that Alayah can see her siblings every year. I didn't have to put my time or energy into hunting down family members and asking them awkward questions so that I can tell my daughter about her family. I don't have to talk to his family and tell them about a special little girl. I don't even have to talk to her father, but I do. I put up with him yelling at me and calling me names because I love her. I put her first. I don't want her to question who she is or who her family is. I spend time with her siblings mothers only because I love her and what her to have time with her siblings and have a relationship with them. I know its awkward for all of the moms to be in a room together and be friendly, but we all do it for the kids. Because of my research and hard work and putting up with her dad's crap I have people in his family who care about Alayah and know her.
I told him all the stuff I didn't have to do and he said he never asked me to. If I didn't do all this she would have nothing because he wouldn't do it either. He barely even knows her. He only calls once a month. He hasn't seen her since August. His kids don't know him and eventually they won't care to know him. Ughh....I'm just so frustrated.
I love this girls smile. It can light up a room. She picked out her shoes to wear today. Not what I would have picked but oh well
Alayah is starting to sing along to songs more lately. She is getting better at her ABC's but she has been skipping E F and G. I think it's safe to say now that she is officially potty trained. I thought she was several times before, but right after I would think for sure she would regress and we would have to start all over. She has been doing awesome since December and doesn't even have any accidents at school. She only wears pull ups at night time. She sleeps dry during naps so she doesn't need any for naptime. I am glad she is growing up, but I still miss my baby a lot too. I wish these days would last longer they go by in a blink of an eye.